Letting Go of an ex: Can you remain friends?
- mymommasays
- Feb 19, 2018
- 1 min read
My ex broke up with me about four months ago. We were together for a year and a half. His friends are my friends and I don't want that to change. He still texts me like every other day, I don't want that to change either. I am dating someone new, and when my ex asks how things are going, I downplay it. Is this healthy? Is this just part of me going through the motions of a break up? Can I really be friends with an ex who broke my heart? Help!
-Still Hanging On
Stefan Says...
Soooooo, basically you’re still in love with Mr. Heartbreaker?! Mr. Fine! Mr. Right! Ok. I understand. But if you’re ever going to move on, in a real and true way, you have to step away from Mr. Everythang! I mean completely step away. Block the number, shed the tears, stop the Facebook stalking. You have to let him go, completely. As for his friends…that are also your friends, never use them for intel. Not only could that make you look desperate and thirsty, it keeps you hanging on.
My Momma says…
Hello Still Hanging On, I see the answers to your dilemma in your questions. And, I think you do, too. “He broke up with me”, “I don’t want anything to change, although it has.” “I don’t feel good about downplaying my new relationship.” “I know this isn’t healthy.” That’s what I hear you saying. Sometimes we have to listen to our intuition, our voices, our selves. Because , many times, they provide us with the answers, and usually the right ones.
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