Suicide. Who's to Blame?

Dear My Momma Says,

Recently, there was a tragic event in our office. A guy who was always the life of the party and the office committed suicide. We were all devastated. Especially, since none of us were aware that he may have been experiencing depression. Half of the office staff say we are not to blame for not seeing the signs and reaching out to him The other half say had we been more sensitive and caring we may have prevented this tragic death. Who is right?

-Ellington, Atlanta, Ga

Stefan Says…

What an unfortunate occurrence, I’m sorry for your loss. When it comes to suicide, there are no easy answers and no one to blame. Instead of looking for wrong vs. right, concentrate on how to help anyone in your office who may now be experiencing grief or depression in light of this tragedy. See if you can coordinate an office meeting to address what happened, perhaps you can even ask a grief specialist to attend. At the very least, you can send an office email letting people know that help is available if they need it. The National Suicide Prevention Hotline telephone number is 1-800-273-8255, open 24/7. Here’s a link https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org

My Momma Says…

This must be a very sad and confusing time for you and your office mates. Suicide is an illness that can't be understood or rationalized by those around the victim. Often, however, it can bring to focus those experiencing overwhelming depression. Seeking help is always a positive response. Contact your Human Resources department for advise on moving forward as an office team , as well as individual support.

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