Ready or Not? A Parent's Dilemma

My Daughter is sixteen and a sophomore in high school. She’s beautiful and outgoing. Her mother and I just started allowing her to date. Right now, she wants to go out with a man who is 19 years old and a freshman in college! He’s too old for my daughter. While my wife thinks it’s ok, I’m saying NO to a first date. Who’s right?

Stefan Says…

I’d have to say you are. College life is on another level from high school. She may be exposed to stronger adult situations she may not be ready for by dating a guy in college. Sure, you run the risk of upsetting your daughter. But ultimately, you’re the parent. She lives under your roof and your rules. Sorry wife.

​​My Momma Says…

Who's right depends on your daughter. Is your daughter mature for her age? Does she consistently make good, well thought out decisions? If the answer to both of these questions is yes you may want to modify your "No" vote. You and your wife may want to suggest to the couple that they double date for a while as they get to know each other, and you can get to know the young man. That's not too much to ask and implements the all important element of time.