Do I Tell Her?

Finally, I’ve found a love I can see lasting forever. We see eye to eye on most issues as it relates to politics, religion, and our ideas on raising a family. We’re both in our mid 30’s and ready to settle down. She’s been very open about her past relationships and for the most part, I have been too. The one exception; I got my ex-girlfriend pregnant three years ago and we chose to have an abortion. I don’t know if my ex shares this with her boyfriends, but I’d prefer to keep it a secret. My girlfriend and I are both staunch conservatives and I worry she may look at our relationship differently if I were to tell her. Can I keep this one secret to myself?

Stefan Says…

I think the best relationships are the ones where you can trust your significant with intimate details of your personal life. However, this sensitive and private issue involves another person: an ex-girlfriend. I’d keep this 'one secret' to myself out of respect for the other party.

My Momma Says…

Yes, you can. The decision you and your ex-girlfriend made reflected a joint decision. If you were to share this with your current partner you would be exposing your ex without her permission. Also, were you to tell your current partner, would it help her know you better? If sharing serves no positive purpose in your current relationship you need to move on.