Get a Clue!

There’s this guy I’m digging. He’s handsome, smart and of course he’s funny! He’s financially stable and just an all around good-guy. I think it’s fair to say we’re friends. We have a core group of mutual friends and it’s typical our group hangs out once a week for drinks and fun. I’m constantly flirting with him when I see him, so there’s hardly any way he couldn’t know I’m into him. But he’s never asked me out. Should I just be direct and ask him out? I know that doing so and being rejected could alter the dynamics of our group friendship, but I really like him!

Stefan Says:

Guys aren’t dumb. If he was interested, your flirting would’ve been reciprocated in the form of an asked-out-on-a-date action! If I were you, I’d change my mind on really liking him, and become available for a guy who really likes you!

My Momma Says:

Social norms are a ‘changing. Yes. It use to be expected that the female waited for the male to make the first move. This gave the female the advantage because if she said no it was the male who experienced rejection. How last year!! Women today feel empowered to take risks in relationships, even if it means being the initiator. Why not get two tickets to the next art opening, or sports events, then, when the gang is together again slip him one. If he isn’t available, give the ticket ( or both of them) to another member of the gang and keep it moving. At best, he might pick up on your interest and reciprocate later. If not, you’ve tested the waters and can use your mental energies (AKA shameless flirting techniques) on the next cutie.